I am full-time work-from-home compiler developer or simply a software developer. I got this gig after 1.5 years being off, caring for my daughter. I love it, all aspects of it. The work, pay, and my colleagues.
I am also full-time house-wife, a very traditional kind, where most responsibilities of keeping home/life running falls on my shoulder.
I also take care of our daughter, feed, bath, and keep her social calendar filled with playdates, age appropriate classes, and activities. I had found her a great daycare where she looks forward to going daily, and it has been so great for both of us. I get to do my work and she gets to learn and socialize. Of course the daycare is closed for now.
I enjoy all aspects of my life, except at times, I don't get good quality sleep and that grossly hinders my ability to cope with everything. It's at these times, that it occurs to me I am doing more than my share. But when this passes, it's all back to good and normal.
With quarantine I am getting very little sleep. I am overtired, and most nights I wake up after a couple hours sleep unable to fall back asleep. My days are not long enough, I attend to my daughter's online learning schedule, play with her, take her on walks, and only turn T.V. on when I absolutely have no other choice, like I have a 1-1 with my boss. This is quite disruptive. The two windows of opportunity I have to get work done, is during her nap and when she sleeps. Both have been disrupted pretty badly. She doesn't sleep well at night, and doesn't nap long during the day either.
I don't know for how long we are expected to stay quarantined, or more importantly how long the childcare centres will be closed for. I google this every other day, and last I checked it was not clear when.
I don't have a plan B.
Friday, April 17, 2020
How has the quarantine impacted my husband's life?
My husband's main concern is not to contract the virus, and he has been successful in altering and limiting his daily activities to pursue this goal.
This change is amazing, since he used to spend two hours of every three hours outside of the home every single day, without any exception. When asked to stay home on social occasions, and other life situations, his mood would turn sour after two hours.
But now, he calmly spends his whole day at home. Paces the small living/dining space with his phone in hand to get his 2KM daily walk everyday. Eats his breakfast and lunch at home, something that probably happened less than the count of my fingers over the course of 8 years marriage. Get his work done remotely, and watches T.V. with our daughter.
He rarely helps out with the work around the house, that has not been his thing, and he is not about to change now that he's at home all the time to see the amount of work that goes on daily to keep the house and life in general running.
He can continue with this lifestyle until it's declared safe to go out.
This change is amazing, since he used to spend two hours of every three hours outside of the home every single day, without any exception. When asked to stay home on social occasions, and other life situations, his mood would turn sour after two hours.
But now, he calmly spends his whole day at home. Paces the small living/dining space with his phone in hand to get his 2KM daily walk everyday. Eats his breakfast and lunch at home, something that probably happened less than the count of my fingers over the course of 8 years marriage. Get his work done remotely, and watches T.V. with our daughter.
He rarely helps out with the work around the house, that has not been his thing, and he is not about to change now that he's at home all the time to see the amount of work that goes on daily to keep the house and life in general running.
He can continue with this lifestyle until it's declared safe to go out.
Thursday, April 16, 2020
How is this quarantine changing the way my toddler perceives the world?
To her, with limited vocabulary, certain things such as school, supermarket, library, parks, are "broken".
I am trying my best to convince her, it's "broken", but not for good, and not only for her.
She gets excited to meet her friends virtually but half way through the meet up she tears up, and starts shaking her head, that she no longer wants to continue with this. These days she can spent hours with the animated characters, she knows their names, and happily references them in her conversation. Reminding her of the names of her real life friends have the reverse effect on her mood.
I am trying my best to convince her, no matter what the situation, we need to keep in touch with our real friends, even if they aren't physically close to us.
The idea of fresh air, and spending time outdoors appeals to her, but when we are out, with careful planning ahead, and much caution, it only takes 10 minutes for her to ask to go home.
While our governments' effort in taking slow, and calculated steps to reopen our economy is much appreciated, kids and their re-integration in the normal cycle of life should be discussed too.
I am trying my best to convince her, it's "broken", but not for good, and not only for her.
She gets excited to meet her friends virtually but half way through the meet up she tears up, and starts shaking her head, that she no longer wants to continue with this. These days she can spent hours with the animated characters, she knows their names, and happily references them in her conversation. Reminding her of the names of her real life friends have the reverse effect on her mood.
I am trying my best to convince her, no matter what the situation, we need to keep in touch with our real friends, even if they aren't physically close to us.
The idea of fresh air, and spending time outdoors appeals to her, but when we are out, with careful planning ahead, and much caution, it only takes 10 minutes for her to ask to go home.
While our governments' effort in taking slow, and calculated steps to reopen our economy is much appreciated, kids and their re-integration in the normal cycle of life should be discussed too.
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